I am a beautiful, 30 something woman in Virginia Beach, VA. I’m single and looking for a very special type of man. I decided to create this page after browsing some others and wanting to share my own thoughts on the relationship dynamic I desire. I suppose it will also function as something as a personal ad. Silly I guess, but who knows!
If you are in this type of relationship, know a great deal about it, or are also looking for the type of dynamic I am, please feel free to share your thoughts here 🙂 For the record, I was not a sexually abused child, my parents are still married, and I have no substance abuse or similar such problems. I know there are folks who like to think a woman who doesn’t want to be in charge must be defective in one way or another…
The personal ad:
I am looking for a good man to develop a solid relationship. He must be SINGLE, a non-smoker, and within about 10 years of my age. I don’t want to rush anything but I’m a love and marriage kind of girl and only want to meet someone who wants to find someone to spend their life with, as I do.
Searching for a dominant man for LTR. I’ve had some bad experiences with men who think “dominant” means “selfish and inconsiderate.” So far from the truth!
Being submissive to my man does not mean I’m submissive to anyone and everyone who wants to give me orders. Even to my man, it doesn’t mean I’m a doormat. I expect a normal courtship like everybody else and if you don’t make me feel special it just won’t work. Idiots who want to start out by telling me I’m “not submissive” because I have self respect and don’t let a stranger lead from the day I meet him should really move on to the next profile now! If you’re an experienced dominant man and know better, please write me!
I need a strong, responsible partner who is the loving, nurturing type and will take care of me and make me feel adored. A sadistic type wouldn’t be a good match for me but he does still need to be in charge and able to enforce rules and help me stay grounded. Sometimes I can get a bit emotional and withdraw and it would be so wonderful to have a caring and understanding man who could snap me right out of that mode! For me, this is about bonding with my partner, keeping sparks going, and stress relief. It can be foreplay, a way to resolve a silly argument, or just a way to relieve tension and return to a calmer state.
You have to be respectable! This is a huge obstacle for me when it comes to dating. Just because you’re attractive and fun doesn’t mean you’re a respectable guy. If I can’t look up to you and depend on you, I can’t be in love with you. I fall fast and hard when I feel like a man is “taking care of” me, mostly in the vanilla sense. If somebody does the manly type stuff around the house for me, can fix stuff, protects me, takes care of me financially, sets rules and consequences for me, looks out for me and generally just has my back, it gives me the warm fuzzies AND the warm slipperies… I love feeling like someone really cares and I’m neither responsible for, nor in charge of, everything in my life. It’s very important to me that my man not only makes me his priority, but that I can count on him to do what he says he’s going to do in general. I’ve learned in recent years that kinda guy could have the keys to my heart and I would be a very happy girl!
I am a spanko through and through and submissive in the bedroom. I want someone who will spank me in play, in foreplay, and for punishment as he deems fit. I am a brat and will sometimes get quite an attitude if I haven’t had an adjustment in a while or if I’m just stressed out and need a release. Unfortunately, I have terrorized vanilla boyfriends testing them (not even a conscious thing sometimes) to see if they’ll be able to handle me. If I have too much power in a relationship, I will push buttons and eventually just push a man away. It’s very important to me that my Dom is bright. I’m highly intelligent and I can’t respect a dummy. If I can’t respect a man, I can’t submit to him. Can’t submit = fail on the happy D/s relationship front! “Yes, Sir” flows naturally from my lips when I’m given instructions by a man with a commanding presence! I love to be told what to wear and to a degree, what to do. My man has to be authoritative but he needs to be loving, affectionate, sensual, and nurturing as well. I am generally easy to get along with, unless I am being sassy and need to feel my man’s power in making me submit… This isn’t about abuse or being “beaten up;” I just want to be reminded that I have someone stronger than me to take care of me, whom I feel I belong to. I am very open to trying new things to please someone if I’m in love, but I will not submit to sexual activities that are detrimental to me just because my partner wants me to. For instance, if you’re obsessed with anal sex, you might as well move on to the next profile now! I have dignity and self respect and I demand to be treated as an important human being! Though I prefer my man to be in control in the bedroom and often out of the bedroom too, it’s important that my pleasure is not neglected. If you enjoy having an adoring, obedient woman, it would behoove you to make it worth her while to stick around.
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